Over the weekend I was reading a great article from parenting magazine and it talked about how there are only 940 Saturday from the time our kids are born until they leave for college! I never thought about it that way so basically that means if you have kids that are 5 years old you are down to 260 days OUCH! I am close to that number with my 4 year old twins!
We are all trying to find ways to make the most of the time we have with our children but after hearing that I felt like I needed to pass on the things that I’ve learned to do with my kids that helps me to solely focus on them when we are together and really make the most of our quality time. For example my husband’s birthday was on Saint Paddy’s Day so I got the kids involved right away to help make it special for them and for my husband. To make it extra special we decided to celebrate his birthday all week.
First I took my kids to Color Me Mine which is a paint-your-own-pottery store. We wanted tocreate something that would hold a precious moment in time for Jason ( my husband). What’s cuter at this age then those adorable hands and fingers? So the kids pressed their little hands in paint and our thoughtful gift was created. They couldn’t wait to pick it up and wrap it for his party! Next, we decided that we would hit the mountain slopes for some skiing and snow ball fights! One of the things we love most about living in CA is that you can be at the beach and then the mountains in just 2 hours or less! The ride up provided us with magical conversations and of course we had of fair share of mishaps, but that’s what makes it a family road trip. It was so much fun to head up to the snow and just spend the day together laughing and enjoying each other! Every day brings new growth, new milestones, and new wonderment. I find that the challenges of our adult lives sometimes get in the way and it can prevent us from fully enjoying and appreciating the delicate nuances of childhood. Not everyday will be perfect with our kids, but I have learned to fully enjoy those great day together even more and when it’s a rough day that’s okay we are all learning along the way how to juggle life.
After a great day at the snow we decided to decorate the Breakfast room together as my husband had done this for my birthday the kids LOVE it especially my daughter. So we made beautiful flower arrangements together laid out candles and the kids worked on hand made clovers, we blew up lots of green balloons and then of course made daddy’s favorite dinner and the pot of Gold Cake was everyone’s favorite!
All in all my husband had an amazing birthday and my kids and I had some special moments. It doesn’t matter if it’s a special occasion or a rainy day there are always ways to create a special moment below are some great things that you can add into your family’s routine that will help you focus more on the kids and at the same time bring the family unit together so everyone benefits.
Parenting is certainly not easy, but it’s like they say anything that is worth having and that turns out GREAT take’s time, care, and love to grow. As parents we put time into our kinds, but I’m learning that we also learn a lot about who we are, it’s a beautiful thing!
This is a great way to take some time out when you are under stress take a few deep breathes and concentrate on what you want for your kids that day or maybe that moment. Think about them and try to understand them decide to be with them fully in the moment and you will see that it’s easier to handle difficult situations as they arise. You will also feel more connected to them and enjoy your time together when you take a moment out to think about it and meditate on what you want.
2.Take Pajama walks in the evening
If the weather permits once and a while you can all take a stroll before bed together down the street or even around the block. Sometimes creating a new routine is just what you need as well as what they need. Bedtime rituals are not always easy and kids LOVE getting outside especially at night. Take a slow walk with them chances are you will see bunnies and some cool little critters running around. My kids tend to open up and you can have really cool conversations. Since we have dogs this is a great way to walk the dog and instill the responsibility into your kids that they need when having a pet.
3.Create Dinner theme’s throughout the week the family can look forward too!
This is such a great idea because it will help you stay on top of what’s for dinner and your kids will having something fun to look forward to each week together that they can get involved in! I like to create a menu for the week and the way I do it is seasonally try to take advantage of what’s fresh each season. We like to hit the local farmers markets on Saturday morning’s. I want my kids to have a well-rounded palate trying new things not getting stuck in the chicken or mac and cheese mode forever! I like to make them feel a part of the entire process from the shopping to putting things away to cooking they want to help and it teaches them early on to have a love for cooking real food and family togetherness.
Okay, this one is for the dad’s it seems like my “Honey Do List” never seems to end! It could be a pluming issue, broken toy, or possibly a car issue but I have learned if there is something broken my kids want to be a part of helping to fix it (especially my son). So I say, “let them help.” Now this is most defiantly a time for more patience because it will take twice as long with lots of questions along the way. But it’s the perfect time to talk with them share the experience and have them learn something new through you!
5.Play their Games
This one is so important because you only have so much time with your kids alone when they are not at school on a play date or at an activity to play with them. Now my kids are at the stage where they think “hide and go seek” is the best game in the world. I don’t love playing “hind and go seek,’ but I love seeing them happy. I try and get my husband involved as much as possible, because he like to pretend to be the monster which they go nuts for. It can be hard to break away from work, shopping, laundry, or whatever is on the list, but good old fashion playtime is essential. After all since we made the choice to have kids we have to take the time to engage with them even if it takes away from other things that seem more important. Your kids will thank you later on and remember what kind of mom or dad you were. This is a gift you are giving them just think of it that way. Plus there will be a day that they stop asking, because their friends are more important at the time so enjoy it while you can.
6. Movie nights
I love this tradition! You can serve frozen yogurt, homemade breads, or healthy homemade cookies, and popcorn. My goal is always to create our own magical movie night for the entire family. Get in your PJ’s and grab your favorite blanket and snuggle up together!
When I was a young girl there weren’t a lot of great memories that I had of my parents. Now that I can create my family the way I want to I really try to make it as magical as possible. It’s not always easy and I am so far from perfect, but that’s okay. My kids need to see me mess up too and learn that we all make mistakes. Most importantly, they also need to see me try and that’s what this blog is all about not being the perfect parent just doing your best! Here’s to you and your family creating magical memories together!